Couples Therapy

The relationship is off the tracks.

It’s another pointless fight that never goes anywhere but in circles, except this time, it’s like you are on the edge of the plank, wondering if you and your marriage have any more room to falter in this state of disconnecting pain and disappointment.

Previously, when people you know suggested couples therapy, you weren’t sure if it was bad enough. After all, you always said you were “committed” no matter what. There is no infidelity or big drug or alcohol problems. Yet the years have steadily declined into loneliness, frustration, and rejection, pushing your relationship to the brink.

Now, you are in different worlds, wondering if the love you once knew is a bright enough memory of hope to survive the storms of current doubt and relational turmoil. You rarely feel seen, loved, heard, or understood; things worsen and lead to escalating conflict when you try to point this out.

Trying not to make things worse, one or both of you try “letting it go” and “taking space apart” until things calm down. But this only seems to fuel the pain of isolation and rejection. You and your relationship need help!

Couples therapy can get things back on track.

When couples often come to me for help in their relationship, they have reached a place where the hope of fixing things and healing from the damage done seems far off and risky. The damage done and the pain you feel are so intense because the risk and vulnerability of opening yourself up to love are so sincere.

In my work with couples, we begin by understanding that the underlying relationship dynamic (the relationship dance) is the problem – not you and not your partner or spouse.

I incorporate Emotion-Focused Couple Therapy interventions and principles to help you see and understand the patterns of behavior, the underlying assumptions, and feelings that make up your specific “dance.” Together, we will slow things down and unpack the pain and hurt, allowing you to practice and experience a new way of being together.

In our work together, I draw from the insights and tools of the Gottman method and Internal Family Systems Therapy. I can help equip you with the tools and insights needed for healing and connection. Let me help you rebuild the marriage you wanted from the beginning.

Let’s work to fix what keeps you apart.

As a therapist, I have seen how couples therapy can improve relationships. Although you may feel like you are running on different tracks, through therapy, you can learn about each other, the strengths of your relationship, and how to deal with the issues that keep you apart.

Through couples therapy, you can learn a new “dance” that helps make the proper connection.

Connect with me today to learn how couples therapy can help you strengthen your relationship or marriage.